Perhaps you don’t feel 100% comfortable with like this last-minute date thing. You also want to show him that it’s Friday night and you’re not sitting around waiting to see who messages you. Even if you are sitting at home watching Love Island (we’ve all been there) some quality time with yourself should always trump a low-effort date with a guy. This typically indicates a “red flag” in the relationship. You may have a gut feeling that something is off or that he’s not really with you.

It’s ok to get on with your life and text back when you have the time. Don’t sit watching your phone waiting for a reply; carry on as normal and let them fit to your schedule. Suggest exclusivity first and see how he responds. If you need the label of boyfriend and girlfriend to feel secure, talk to him about it and see how you can both find a way to be comfortable around the subject. Some guys avoid showing affection in public, but are totally different behind closed doors. Folks are forgetting that OP is saying this is just one example of an overall pattern of Extreme On/AWOL that’s been going on since May.

This is the one man that playing hard to get is a right turn-on for him, but be genuine about it! Don’t play games with him, simply have a full schedule! Aquarius men are known for suddenly disappearing. More often than not, it’s because he’s overthinking things, which stresses him out and makes him go distant.

I am WELL AWARE that just because he’s not abusing me that I don’t need to settle (unbelievable comment). I’m am fine with him needing space, I have a life as well. Nor am I hanging onto the fact that he said he loved me.

You don’t know this man, all you know is that he’s on his best behavior because it’s been only 8 weeks. For all you know he could be controlling, manipulative, abusive, he could be a liar, lazy, dishonest, name it. You know it takes time to get to know someone’s true nature so slow down, and take him down from his pedestal. You seem to be “all in” with a guy who hardly sees you and is apparently playing games. If “dating” your almost-partner doesn’t involve any actual dates, that could a red flag they aren’t willing to put in any real effort into the relationship. “When someone cares, they want to take you places, spend quality time making new memories, surprise you from time to time, plan vacations,” says Leckie.

There were times he would say that he was so happy he met me because he never thought he’d meet someone like me and that his focus should be me. I’ve been talking with an Aquarius man on and off for about 9 months now. He’s extremely hot and cold going from one day talking about us getting in a serious relationship and talking about a future to the next being cold and distant and not wanting OnlineBootyCall contact number to talk. I think it’s good news that he’s actually considering and even mentioning commitment as I know most Aquarius are afraid of that. I also think he genuinely likes me as his compliments are not geared towards my looks but rather my intellect and ambition (and occasionally my looks). I’m just not sure where I stand with him since it seems like it’s different every few minutes.

He’s acting hot and cold.

So he settles into a more comfortable routine, and that often means he is slightly less engaged in the relationship. It may look like he’s losing interest, but he’s really just trying to get to know you on a real level. It’s all potential and chemistry and flirty banter. The real part comes a little later and that’s what lays the foundation for having a healthy, lasting relationship. The more you squeeze him, the more pressure he’ll feel and he’ll really start to pull away and lose interest in you.

But let’s give your personal experience attention. You seem wonderfully self-aware and capable of practical reflection. So I’m sure you already know, without me even telling you, that the ebb and flow of his texts doesn’t necessarily signal a waning interest in you.

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You can give a guy a chance to prove you wrong once or twice, but if you’re feeling continually confused or frustrated and it’s bringing you down, he’s just not worth the trouble. If you need more from the man you’re dating, you need to tell him. Men aren’t mind readers, and he might not realize that you’re feeling ignored or unwanted when he forgets to call or doesn’t make as much effort with dates.

Hayley Quinn empowers men and women to enjoy a more fulfilling dating life, with live coaching, hands-on tutorials and guidance for any age or sexual orientation. Here you demonstrate that you can’t always keep chopping and changing your plans. And again, you show you preferred the original date option, rather than going along with his new and revised plan.

I was devestated and he made me feel like a cheap whore, it deeply impacted my feeling of self worth. When he finally contacted me again i was furious and told him to get lost. It hurt so bad that the sex didn’t mean anything to him, and he probably just texted me again that night because he saw me as a bootycall and not as a potential girlfriend.

She might enjoy talking to you, and she may even want to be your friend, but without sexual attraction she won’t have much (or any) desire to be your girlfriend or lover. If she wastes her time with him, she will potentially miss out on the opportunity to hook up with a guy who is emotionally strong enough for her woman like her. A woman acting hot and cold means that she shows interest one minute and then appears to lose interest the next. Some guys get really flirty when they’ve been drinking, but then go quiet once they’ve sobered up again.

He will buy gifts, plan outings, and make every effort to make you feel special. And then suddenly, he may stop and even pull away. So the beginning and end of your problem is he’s a married man. He is not sticking up for you and what is right for you, he is just taking what he can get from you, and keeping a firm grasp on his wife and family that he never intends to give up.